"At that point, all the random males in the club surrounded the performers and started masturbating to the scene"
My first time at a Swinger's club was a long time ago, probably somewhere between 2009/2011. I had a couple of friends discreetly sharing with my then-boyfriend and me, that they were organizing a party for adults, and since my lover and I seemed somehow open-minded, we were invited to check it out. I dressed sensually, and we asked a few other friends to join. The club was relatively empty, and we were pretty much drinking and partying within our group of friends while some random single males would enter the club and walk around. At some point, there was a sex show, a couple interacting in a very sensual and performative way, before the coming penetration. At that point, all the random males in the club surrounded the performers and started masturbating to the scene. It felt somehow awkward, I have to admit, and luckily I don't remember any of those men ejaculating. Maybe my brain erased it? I was clearly not ready, at that point in my life, to that type of dynamic. Later on, we explored the club's rooms and the famous "labyrinth" until we decided to leave. The balance was: I felt like all those single men in the club were randomly walking around and waiting until my lover and I had sex so they could have some jack-off-material. I felt off during most of the night.
"But that particular automobile was customized, so its front and back were the head and footboard of a huge bed, and this is where the orgy would happen"
That first experience showed me why single men get charged a whole lot of money to enter those sorts of clubs without a partner.
So we decided to have a bit of a better experience and went a second time but now to a different club in São Paulo, Brazil. We chose Code Club as they seemed like a classy and reputable venue.
We went with another couple, and I could already tell the difference by the entrance. It costed more, but it seemed very organized and polite in many ways. We then accessed the dancefloor, and it was just like any regular nightclub with well dressed and fun people. Some ladies dancing on the counters, but that was the wildest people would get in there. They had an extensive bar around the floor, some cozy, isolated corners with couches for VIP people (a.k.a whoever pays more), even a sushi restaurant! It felt right, and the vibe was very different. After dancing for a bit and getting acquaintances with the place, we followed on to the labyrinth, lots of different types of rooms! Some would have opening walls between them; some others would have walls with holes to the room next door (a.k.a glory holes), some were private, and some were massive! The main room was known by "the Kombi room." For those who are unfamiliar, Kombis have become super hyped-up after the whole van life trended. Those cars are van-types, produced by Volkswagen between 1950 and 2013. But that particular automobile was customized, so its front and back were the head and footboard of a huge bed, and this is where the orgy would happen.
There was also a smaller orgy room with a pool table in which people were definitely not playing any pool games.
"That night though, I tried having sex in the room with the glory holes, and it was particularly engaging"
I did have sex with my partner in a private room while I could listen to so many other people having sex, and that was extremely hot.
I remember talking to a lady in the bathroom, trying to get me to interact with her partner. Still, she realized I wasn't looking for non-monogamous interactions that night, and I felt super respected. I had a great experience, and even years after that date, I went back to that same club with a sex-bud and a couple of other friends. That night though, I tried having sex in the room with the glory holes, and it was particularly engaging.
In Montreal, Canada, I also visited a Swinger's club called Entre Nous 2, but I didn't feel like I had the best of experiences. Once again, an empty club with lots of single men, who seemed too thirsty and not as respectful as I would rather. The place was great; there were some advantageous deals for the bar and a beautiful warm pool. My then-relationship wasn't extremely healthy, and every single insecurity stands out when you are attending non-monogamous events. For the record, I have been in monogamish and non-monogamous relationships for all times I visited sex-clubs. For the first two times, my then-partner and I had a decent amount of openness to interacting with others; nonetheless, 99,9% existed on the monogamous side. For the last time, in Montreal, I was in a non-monogamous relationship that was the most problematic. To clarify: the main problem wasn't related to the openness of it, rather the lack of sincere and transparent communication, but that is a subject for another time!
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